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? Success in Life ?
EVERYBODY wants it, ANYONE can have it, VERY FEW get it.
ISN'T THAT STRANGE?
Just what is Success in Life? - it is having
Good Health
Loving Relationships, a
Joyful Life
Peace of Mind,
Financial Prosperity, a
Rewarding Career, and a
Long Life.
Are these your goals?
You have probably learned by now that 'luck' won't make them
happen for you. Neither will education, a high I.Q.,
or even hard work, although some work is necessary.
Have you ever wondered, "Just how do I do it?"
"How do I make MY life one of complete success?"
We have all known people who appeared to be very intelligent,
really smart, and yet seemed to struggle with every aspect of
their lives; health, finances, careers, and relationships.
We've known people who were highly educated - yet their life was
just one struggle after another, and
We know a lot of people who work hard, and still never seem
to get ahead (We may know someone like this very well!)
We've also known people with just an average intelligence,
and, yet, somehow managed to fill their lives with all kinds of
successes. They seemed to have a 'golden touch' -
everything about their lives wreaked of happiness and prosperity.
How did they do it? What kind of 'magic' did they have to make
their lives so full and abundant? The answer lies in our E.Q., our
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE!
What is I.Q., and what is E.Q.?
Our I.Q., or Intelligence Quotient, represents our 'Potential'
to achieve our Success in Life.
Our E.Q., or Emotional Quotient, represents our 'Acquired
Skills' that are absolutely necessary to achieve Success in Life.
It is generally accepted that our I.Q., is fairly well 'fixed' and
little can be done to raise it.
Research consistently validates that our E.Q. is at least
4 times as important as our I.Q. in determining how well we
succeed in life.
And the really exciting news about our E.Q. is that
we can increase it, thus improving our abilities to achieve
more Success in Life for ourselves and those we love
To get a brief idea of your E.Q., your Emotional Quotient,
complete the following exercise. Try to be as honest with
yourself as possible.
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FOLLOWING EXERCISE BEFORE COMPLETING IT
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SCORING VALUES
_0_ Rarely _1_ Seldom _2_ Sometimes
_3_ Often _ 4_ Very Often _5_ Nearly Always
1____ I am kind, loving, caring, and forgiving to everyone,
especially those who have done me wrong.
2____ I like me and feel good about all aspects of myself.
I like who and how that I am, and am becoming.
3____ I am very creative in every aspect of my life.
I see the good in every situation and think positive about
everything,
4____ I spend at least 20 minutes every day in quite thought and
contemplation. I often pray for guidance in my life.
5____ I am well organized, keep a diary, and write my problems
down on paper to study them.
6____ I live my life by values that are fair, just, democratic,
and righteous. My word is my bond in all things.
7____ I am prompt and orderly in everything that I do.
I keep my personal belongings tidy and well organized.
8____ I like to give advice and cheer others up when they have
problems.
9____ I like to tell jokes and stories so I can be the center of
attention.
10___ I like to argue for fun, tease others, and discuss controversial
subjects.
11___ I smoke, drink more than I should, watch a lot of Television,
or read a lot of fictional books.
12___ I worry about things that I fear will happen to me or others.
13___ I believe there are many rules that should not be broken
under any circumstances.
14___ I try very hard to set high goals for myself, even if I know that
I can't really reach them.
PLOT YOUR ANSWERS BELOW TO CREATE YOUR E.Q.
Enter your scores> ___'___'___'___'___'___'___ Total _____ (A)
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
Enter your scores> ___'___'___'___'___'___'___ Total _____ (B)
8 9 10 11 12 13 14
To determine your E.Q., divide the Total of (A) by the Total of (B).
Then multiply your answer by 100. This is your E.Q. __________
Your answers on the (A) line suggest how well you have developed
some of your mental programs, or Ego States. You answers on the
(B) line suggest there may be some of your mental programs, or
Ego States, that you either haven't developed yet or that you are
using in an ineffective manner.
A score between 85 and 115 is considered to be in the 'Average'
range. A score above 150 places you in upper level of Emotional
Competence. People who enjoy the most Success in Life, usually
score around 200.
Please keep in mind that these scores. ARE NOT PERMANENT,
They can be changed dramatically with a few very simple exercises.
To obtain a more accurate reading on your E.Q., go to
bavary@JUNO.com. and ask for the Personality Profile
Questionnaire and l will email it to you. After you have answered the
True and False questions, I will personally score it and email to you
some specific 'Affirmation Cards'. When you read these little cards
at least three times a day, you will begin to notice amazing changes
in your Life, your relationships and your earning power. These
cards will also affect your life style if you want to lose weight.
My fee for this personal and confidential service is $20.00.
Your satisfaction is 100% guaranteed.
If you do not get the results you want, just let me know, and I will
refund your money with no questions asked.
And you need not worry about allowing me access to your email
address. I will treat you address with the respect you deserve,
just as though you were one of my person-to-person clients.
All of our communication will be confidential and will not be
shared with anyone for any reason.
JUST HOW DOES OUR E.Q. WORK?
How many time have you heard it said, "The brain is like a
computer." In many ways this is actually true, for it does perform
somewhat like a computer. It can take in information, store
information, then evaluate the information and make decisions.
(My MS Word program evaluates each word as I type it. It will
also make a decision to inform me, and ask if I want to correct
it, should I make a typographical error.)
We all know that a computer MUST have some form of 'program'
for it to operate, otherwise it will not know what to do. We all use
different programs on our computers to accomplish different results.
For example, when I type a letter, I will use MS Word. When I write
checks, I will use my Quicken program. Can you imagine what
would happen if I attempted to write a letter with my Quicken
program, or write checks from my MS Word?
You may think this to sound strange, yet we often use the 'wrong'
mental program, or Ego State, to accomplish tasks or to solve
problems. Have you ever gone to a friend or boss to apologize
for a mistake you made , and what you received instead of
forgiveness was a 'lecture' how how dumb you were or
"What you should have done"?
Have you ever had a financial problem that you 'worried' about
instead of using your creative skills to solve the problem?
These are both examples of how we often use the wrong program
in a given situation.
By the way, the 'mental programs' used by your brain are called
'Ego States'. If you want to know more about them, email me at
bavary@JUNO.com and I will send you some additional literature
on Ego States There is no charge for this courtesy.
People usually like to know something about the person with
whom they are doing business. With that thought in mind, I will
share some personal information about myself.
ABOUT BOB AVARY
Bob entered the profession of Management Consulting, Training
and Personal Coaching in 1969 after a successful career in
accounting, business management,and sales. His continued
studies earned him recognition as a Certified Transactional Analyst.
He has also received advanced training in the science of NLP,
Neuro Linguistic Programming. This particular science allows
individuals to make rapid and permanent changes in their belief
systems as opposed to using long-term psychotherapy or drugs to
accomplish the same results. (You may have seen the movie,
'Shallow Hal', with Tony Robbins doing his NLP thing)
Bob has written many training programs utilizing Transactional
Analysis (TA) and NLP as a base. He recently completed a new
book, 'The Psychology of Ego States'. This book describes how
the effective use of our Ego States determines our E.Q., or
Emotional Quotient. Research continues to validate that our E.Q.
is at least 4 times as important as our I.Q. in obtaining Success in
Life. Included in the book are various tested and proven simple
exercises that can actually increase a person's E.Q. thus
enhancing their probability of Success in Life.
The training materials developed by Bob are used in teaching TA
throughout the United States, as well as Australia, England, France,
Italy, Mexico, Puerto Rico, and Venezuela. He is a frequent presenter
at the annual conferences of the International Transactional Analysis
Association.
Some of the many organizations for which Bob has worked as a
consultant to and/ora trainer for are:
Automobile Dealers (Chevrolet, Chrysler, Ford, Jeep, V,W.)
Banks, Blockbuster Video, Colleges in both Midland and Odessa,TX
University of Texas,
CPA firms (Green, Frost & Foster, Certified as a C.E.U. instructor)
Cooper Cameron Corporation, Daniel Corporation
Insurance firms (Allstate, Farmers, others),
Landmark L/G/C, Schlumberger, Sharp Drilling Company,
Taco Villa and Rosa's Mexican Restaurants,
U.S. Department of Human Resources
To find out how you can ENRICH YOUR LIFE, email me at
bavary@juno.com for the Personality Profile Questionnnaire.
Do it now, and you'll be glad you did!
Bob Avary, President, Avary Growth Institute, Inc.
"Where Dreams Have Become a Reality", since 1969. | 
